PARTNERSHIPS
Charting the adVenture

New Mexico ISPI

December 2003

Mary Beth Shewan Jean Strosinski

Wholelife Coaching Constructive Choices, Inc.

Establishing Your Network

Describe the strengths YOU bring to a partnership and then the strengths you look for in a partner.

Identify the 3 to 5 obstacles you have had to work through with previous or a current partnership.

Describe a dream project you would love to co-create with a partner.

Charting the Journey

Exceptional Strengths

Yours

Your Partner’s

The Blend

Burdensome Obstacles

Agreement

Business

Disappointments … and the Successes

Navigational Tools: The Top Ten

Vision & Passion

Communication

Goals & Plan of Action

Listening

An Open Mind …with Curiosity

Acknowledge & Be Grateful

Mutual Respect

Agreements vs. Conflict

FUN!

Keeping All in Perspective

1. Vision & Passion

Clarity for what you want to achieve together.

Negotiate from the end vision.

A shared vision comes from the heart.

Be painfully candid and clear.

Get behind what is outside the overlap, even if it isn’t the main thing for you personally.

Revisit the vision and passion periodically.

Is what you envision this year also the future?

New realities … let it go …time to move on?

2. Communication

Write and speak.

Ask for help.

Schedule time.

Reflect on what’s working and what’s not.

Constructive feedback.

Speak the truth.

Courageously raise the tough issues.

Use technology.

Keep it regular and planned.

Discuss status, issues and next steps.

Share presentations in advance.

Talk, really talk … daily.

3. Goals & Plan of Action

Share your goals and desired results from the partnership.

Partnership/project charter to document roles, responsibilities, activities.

Distribute the work equally.

Offer what you can contribute.

Siphon off the tasks neither like to do.

Meet your deadlines – quickly and accurately.

Know your personal bottom line.

4. Listening

Listen first, talk second.

Listen carefully when your partner is speaking (don’t butt in).

Appreciate and understand each other to handle the misunderstandings and differences.

Practice profound listening.

5. An Open Mind …with Curiosity

Keep on looking for new things to enjoy about your partner and the partnership.

Be aware of all the things you have done that would not have happened on your own.

Be vulnerable.

Open your eyes as well as your mind … your partners are right in front of you.

6. Acknowledge & Be Grateful

Abundant opportunities and a lot of learning.

Everyone, including your partner, is a customer.

Model how you would like to be treated.

Invest yourself into the partnership often.

Keep the confidentiality.

Care deeply about the other person.

“No one gets to be wrong.”

Thank your partner …often.

7. Mutual Respect

Honor each partner’s values.

Celebrate your differences.

Acknowledge each other strengths.

Capitalize on and play to these strengths.

Tolerate the differences in the “how” and reconfirm the “what.”

Find those who would/could be your friends – “ya gotta love ‘em.”

No competition.

Trust – be 100% You.

8. Agreements vs. Conflict

Working agreements – define the rules.

Schedules, and when to connect.

Accountability systems for mutual work.

How you will provide constructive feedback.

Keep each other informed.

Agree to disagree.

How to handle the disagreements.

Put it on the table, clear the space.

Admit when you are wrong.

Handle it immediately, keep it clean.

Have other outlets for blowing off steam.

9. FUN!

Have fun together.

Balance the formal and informal.

Love what you are doing together.

Laugh.

Relax and bask in the achievements you have created together.

… and laugh together.

10. Keeping All in Perspective

Brainstorm.

Be creative without being attached to the idea.

Keep it flowing. Let go easily of what isn’t working.

Know when to call it quits with a project or the partnership.

Celebrate the joy of getting to live a shared vision.

Your Journey

Look over the “Navigational Tools: The Ten Tips.”

Star (ê) 3-5 of the tips where you show up with strength – the personal strengths you bring to a partnership.

Draw an arrow next to those characteristics you especially want in your partner – Note: Be sure to identify 3-5 that are not your strengths.

Discovery … the New Partnership

Connect with a new person – one who has identified their personal strengths as being different from yours – these are the strengths you have identified with an arrow on your list.

Briefly, explain your dream projects to each other. Choose one of the projects for the next few minutes of discussion.

Discuss what each of you will bring to the partnership that supports the project’s success.

Questions & Answers

Your Questions

Thank You!

…and Thank You to Our Partners!

B. Allaire

S. Anderson

L. Beller

A. Betz

R. Bodine

W. Dudeck

M. Dorfman

C. Forrest

G. Johnson

M. Keveles

S. Moss

R. Schriver

J. Seiler

M. Shewan

A. Sigetich

J. Staggs

J. Strosinski

J. Ward

B. White

S. Wilson


	New Mexico ISPI
	December 2003
	Mary Beth Shewan Jean Strosinski
	Wholelife Coaching Constructive Choices, Inc.


	Describe the strengths YOU bring to a partnership and then the strengths you look for in a partner.

	Identify the 3 to 5 obstacles you have had to work through with previous or a current partnership.

	Describe a dream project you would love to co-create with a partner.


	Exceptional Strengths
		Yours
		Your Partner’s
		The Blend
	Burdensome Obstacles
		Agreement
		Business
		Disappointments … and the Successes


	Vision & Passion
	Communication
	Goals & Plan of Action
	Listening
	An Open Mind …with Curiosity
	Acknowledge & Be Grateful
	Mutual Respect
	Agreements vs. Conflict
	FUN!
	Keeping All in Perspective


	Clarity for what you want to achieve together.
	Negotiate from the end vision.
	A shared vision comes from the heart.
	Be painfully candid and clear.
	Get behind what is outside the overlap, even if it isn’t the main thing for you personally.
	Revisit the vision and passion periodically.
	Is what you envision this year also the future?
	New realities … let it go …time to move on?


	Write and speak.
	Ask for help.
	Schedule time.
	Reflect on what’s working and what’s not.
	Constructive feedback.
	Speak the truth.
	Courageously raise the tough issues.


	Use technology.
	Keep it regular and planned.
	Discuss status, issues and next steps.
	Share presentations in advance.
	Talk, really talk … daily.


	Share your goals and desired results from the partnership.
	Partnership/project charter to document roles, responsibilities, activities.
	Distribute the work equally.
	Offer what you can contribute.
	Siphon off the tasks neither like to do.
	Meet your deadlines – quickly and accurately.
	Know your personal bottom line.


	Listen first, talk second.
	Listen carefully when your partner is speaking (don’t butt in).
	Appreciate and understand each other to handle the misunderstandings and differences.
	Practice profound listening.


	Keep on looking for new things to enjoy about your partner and the partnership.
	Be aware of all the things you have done that would not have happened on your own.
	Be vulnerable.
	Open your eyes as well as your mind … your partners are right in front of you.


	Abundant opportunities and a lot of learning.
	Everyone, including your partner, is a customer.
	Model how you would like to be treated.
	Invest yourself into the partnership often.
	Keep the confidentiality.
	Care deeply about the other person.
	“No one gets to be wrong.”
	Thank your partner …often.


	Honor each partner’s values.
	Celebrate your differences.
	Acknowledge each other strengths.
	Capitalize on and play to these strengths.
	Tolerate the differences in the “how” and reconfirm the “what.”
	Find those who would/could be your friends – “ya gotta love ‘em.”
	No competition.
	Trust – be 100% You.


	Working agreements – define the rules.
	Schedules, and when to connect.
	Accountability systems for mutual work.
	How you will provide constructive feedback.
	Keep each other informed.
	Agree to disagree.

	How to handle the disagreements.
	Put it on the table, clear the space.
	Admit when you are wrong.
	Handle it immediately, keep it clean.
	Have other outlets for blowing off steam.


	Have fun together.
	Balance the formal and informal.
	Love what you are doing together.
	Laugh.
	Relax and bask in the achievements you have created together.
	… and laugh together.


	Brainstorm.
	Be creative without being attached to the idea.
	Keep it flowing. Let go easily of what isn’t working.
	Know when to call it quits with a project or the partnership.
	Celebrate the joy of getting to live a shared vision.


	Look over the “Navigational Tools: The Ten Tips.”

	Star (ê) 3-5 of the tips where you show up with strength – the personal strengths you bring to a partnership.

	Draw an arrow next to those characteristics you especially want in your partner – Note: Be sure to identify 3-5 that are not your strengths.


	Connect with a new person – one who has identified their personal strengths as being different from yours – these are the strengths you have identified with an arrow on your list.

	Briefly, explain your dream projects to each other. Choose one of the projects for the next few minutes of discussion.

	Discuss what each of you will bring to the partnership that supports the project’s success.


	B. Allaire
	S. Anderson
	L. Beller
	A. Betz
	R. Bodine
	W. Dudeck
	M. Dorfman
	C. Forrest
	G. Johnson
	M. Keveles
	S. Moss
	R. Schriver
	J. Seiler
	M. Shewan
	A. Sigetich
	J. Staggs
	J. Strosinski
	J. Ward
	B. White
	S. Wilson