PARTNERSHIPS
Charting the adVenture
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New Mexico ISPI |
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December 2003 |
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Mary Beth Shewan
Jean Strosinski |
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Wholelife Coaching Constructive
Choices, Inc. |
Establishing Your Network
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Describe the strengths YOU bring to a
partnership and then the strengths you look for in a partner. |
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Identify the 3 to 5 obstacles you have
had to work through with previous or a current partnership. |
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Describe a dream project you would love
to co-create with a partner. |
Charting the Journey
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Exceptional Strengths |
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Yours |
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Your Partner’s |
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The Blend |
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Burdensome Obstacles |
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Agreement |
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Business |
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Disappointments … and the Successes |
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Navigational Tools: The
Top Ten
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Vision & Passion |
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Communication |
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Goals & Plan of Action |
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Listening |
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An Open Mind …with Curiosity |
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Acknowledge & Be Grateful |
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Mutual Respect |
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Agreements vs. Conflict |
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FUN! |
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Keeping All in Perspective |
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1. Vision & Passion
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Clarity for what you want to achieve
together. |
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Negotiate from the end vision. |
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A shared vision comes from the heart. |
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Be painfully candid and clear. |
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Get behind what is outside the overlap,
even if it isn’t the main thing for you personally. |
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Revisit the vision and passion
periodically. |
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Is what you envision this year also the
future? |
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New realities … let it go …time to move
on? |
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2. Communication
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Write and speak. |
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Ask for help. |
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Schedule time. |
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Reflect on what’s working and what’s
not. |
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Constructive feedback. |
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Speak the truth. |
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Courageously raise the tough issues. |
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Use technology. |
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Keep it regular and planned. |
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Discuss status, issues and next steps. |
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Share presentations in advance. |
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Talk, really talk … daily. |
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3. Goals & Plan of
Action
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Share your goals and desired results
from the partnership. |
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Partnership/project charter to document roles, responsibilities,
activities. |
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Distribute the work equally. |
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Offer what you can contribute. |
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Siphon off the tasks neither like to
do. |
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Meet your deadlines – quickly and
accurately. |
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Know your personal bottom line. |
4. Listening
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Listen first, talk second. |
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Listen carefully when your partner is
speaking (don’t butt in). |
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Appreciate and understand each other to
handle the misunderstandings and differences. |
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Practice profound listening. |
5. An Open Mind …with
Curiosity
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Keep on looking for new things to enjoy
about your partner and the partnership. |
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Be aware of all the things you have
done that would not have happened on your own. |
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Be vulnerable. |
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Open your eyes as well as your mind …
your partners are right in front of you. |
6. Acknowledge & Be
Grateful
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Abundant opportunities and a lot of learning. |
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Everyone, including your partner, is a
customer. |
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Model how you would like to be treated. |
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Invest yourself into the partnership
often. |
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Keep the confidentiality. |
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Care deeply about the other person. |
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“No one gets to be wrong.” |
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Thank your partner …often. |
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7. Mutual Respect
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Honor each partner’s values. |
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Celebrate your differences. |
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Acknowledge each other strengths. |
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Capitalize on and play to these
strengths. |
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Tolerate the differences in the “how”
and reconfirm the “what.” |
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Find those who would/could be your
friends – “ya gotta love ‘em.” |
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No competition. |
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Trust – be 100% You. |
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8. Agreements vs. Conflict
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Working agreements – define the rules. |
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Schedules, and when to connect. |
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Accountability systems for mutual work. |
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How you will provide constructive
feedback. |
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Keep each other informed. |
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Agree to disagree. |
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How to handle the disagreements. |
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Put it on the table, clear the space. |
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Admit when you are wrong. |
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Handle it immediately, keep it clean. |
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Have other outlets for blowing off
steam. |
9. FUN!
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Have fun together. |
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Balance the formal and informal. |
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Love what you are doing together. |
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Laugh. |
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Relax and bask in the achievements you
have created together. |
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… and laugh together. |
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10. Keeping All in
Perspective
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Brainstorm. |
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Be creative without being attached to
the idea. |
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Keep it flowing. Let go easily of what
isn’t working. |
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Know when to call it quits with a
project or the partnership. |
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Celebrate the joy of getting to live a
shared vision. |
Your Journey
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Look over the “Navigational Tools: The
Ten Tips.” |
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Star (ê) 3-5 of the tips where you show up with strength – the personal
strengths you bring to a partnership. |
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Draw an arrow next to those
characteristics you especially want in your partner – Note: Be sure to
identify 3-5 that are not your strengths. |
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Discovery … the New
Partnership
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Connect with a new person – one who has
identified their personal strengths as being different from yours – these are
the strengths you have identified with an arrow on your list. |
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Briefly, explain your dream projects to
each other. Choose one of the projects for the next few minutes of
discussion. |
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Discuss what each of you will bring to
the partnership that supports the project’s success. |
Questions & Answers
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Your Questions |
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Thank You! |
…and Thank You to Our
Partners!
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B. Allaire |
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S. Anderson |
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L. Beller |
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A. Betz |
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R. Bodine |
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W. Dudeck |
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M. Dorfman |
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C. Forrest |
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G. Johnson |
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M. Keveles |
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S. Moss |
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R. Schriver |
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J. Seiler |
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M. Shewan |
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A. Sigetich |
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J. Staggs |
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J. Strosinski |
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J. Ward |
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B. White |
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S. Wilson |